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Coping with PTSD Symptoms: Tired of Feeling Emotionally Flat or Exhausted?

Spring is here, and many people experience an increased sense of rejuvenation and hope.

For others, the season is a reminder of what is missing in their lives. Despite the lengthening days and the flowering trees, there remains a sense of emptiness.

Maybe you, too, feel emotionally flat or exhausted?

Perhaps, despite your best intentions, you can’t muster the energy for the creative projects or invigorating activities that used to bring you joy.

If this how it is for you, you are not alone.

Suffering emotional exhaustion, and living with a lack of joy are common consequences of trauma, and some of the most frequent symptoms of PTSD.

Coping with PTSD Symptoms: Tired of Feeling Emotionally Flat or Exhausted?2018-08-02T15:18:06+00:00

The Hidden Cause of PTSD: Shame That Keeps You Feeling Stuck, Alone and Hopeless

Shame is the feeling that you are fundamentally flawed in some way. That you are worthless, not deserving of love, kindness, and care.

Have you ever felt that way?

Most of us get hijacked by “shame attacks” from time to time. 

Sometimes the trigger is clear is to us, whereas at other times we are completely blindsided by burning embarrassment, or intense feelings of being bad.

If you have experienced trauma in your life, odds are that the feeling of shame is familiar to you. 

The Hidden Cause of PTSD: Shame That Keeps You Feeling Stuck, Alone and Hopeless2018-08-07T10:10:47+00:00

I Have PTSD. What Does that Mean? … And What Can I Do To Recover?

In some ways it can feel like a relief to have a name for what is going on for you.

But, in other ways, being given the PTSD label may make you feel like this is something permanent.  Perhaps you worry that you can’t recover.  

I’m here to tell you that there’s lots of hope. 

You may feel you are going nuts, but actually your brain is doing its best to cope with the overwhelming experiences that happened to you.

Good PTSD treatment can help your brain do that better, so that your life can go back to normal.

A good first step on your healing journey is to understand why you have the symptoms you have.

I Have PTSD. What Does that Mean? … And What Can I Do To Recover?2018-08-07T10:11:16+00:00

Should I Have Contact With Family Members Who Were Abusive?

I am writing this a few days before Christmas. This is the time we are supposed to spend time with loved ones. Typically that means our family and our friends.

But what do you do about contact with family if your parents or other family members maltreated you?

For many people this is a complex issue. Often, you’ll have lots of mixed feelings about it. 

Should I Have Contact With Family Members Who Were Abusive?2018-08-02T15:28:23+00:00

Gratitude: The Great Antidote to Stress

Does it feel you are continually rushing from one thing to the next?

Yet, despite your hurry and busyness, does your stress just seem to increase?

Maybe it even feels like you can never get on top of all there is to do, no matter how hard you try.

I’m sure you’ve heard stress gurus talking about needing to slow down,  and maybe even re-think your priorities.  

But, you wonder how to do that with the mountain of tasks before you, and so many people depending on you.  It seems you don’t have time for stress management.

You’ve probably also been told that you need to focus only on those things that are important, and that you can control.

The big trouble with prolonged stress is that it becomes increasingly difficult to sort out what things you can control, what is important, and what you could actually let go of.

Gratitude: The Great Antidote to Stress2018-08-02T15:28:57+00:00

I’ve made mistakes with my kids. How do I repair our relationship?

Maybe you’ve yelled at your children when you should have been calm.

Perhaps you brushed them aside when you should have paid attention to them. 

You might have been so busy, or so caught up in your own stuff, that you missed important parts of your child’s life.

Don’t worry; all of us make mistakes as parents.

This does not need to harm your relationship with your kids. In fact, your relationship with your children is becomes better when you repair your mistakes well.
 

I’ve made mistakes with my kids. How do I repair our relationship?2018-08-02T15:29:31+00:00

Living with Intense Loneliness: Elizabeth’s Story

Do you assume that people won’t like you?

Then, thinking that you are not good enough, do you isolate yourself, and end up feeling lonely?

Maybe you’ve tried to combat this pattern by forcing yourself into social situations? And, then, when you are in these social situations, do you feel awkward or phony?
Or perhaps, because you feel so badly about yourself, you are surrounded by people who are “takers”?  

These situations can leave you feeling very alone. Unseen, unappreciated, and unvalued.

This is a tough place to be.

Let me share the story of Elizabeth*, and what she did to turn her life around.

 

Living with Intense Loneliness: Elizabeth’s Story2018-08-02T15:30:05+00:00

PTSD Treatment and Trauma Therapy: How Long Does It Take to Heal?

By Elina Falck on Sep 21, 2017 in Trauma

You are probably not surprised to learn the short answer is “depends”.

Still, it makes sense that you’d like to have some kind of ballpark answer. As well, once you know something about what the duration depends on, you’ll have a clearer idea of where you fit in.

It may also help you to know that most people who enter trauma therapy do some work, and then go off to experience life with their new sense of relief and confidence. 

Some time later, they may re-enter therapy because new issues have come up, or they want to deepen the gains they made earlier.

PTSD Treatment and Trauma Therapy: How Long Does It Take to Heal?2018-11-07T18:11:55+00:00

Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations: Jonathan’s Story

By Elina Falck, on September 22 in Stress

Jonathan* was an executive in a fast paced business, he had two pre-teen children, a wife struggling with depression, and elderly parents depending on him.

Despite the heavy load of daily expectations, he felt he should also be accomplished in sports, keep abreast of world news and politics, and be a great cook. 

He prided himself in being better than the rest, the one who would always come out on top. 

He didn’t notice the large amounts of caffeine he was consuming to keep himself going, the alcohol and medication he needed to fall asleep at night, the increasing irritability and the frequent bouts of road rage.

It wasn’t until his wife left him that his world started to crumble.

Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations: Jonathan’s Story2018-11-07T18:17:04+00:00