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Why Does Stress Make You Overeat?

By Elina Falck on September 20th, 2017 in Stress

  • Do you crave chocolate at the end of a long day?
  • Does an argument with your spouse make you reach for the potato chips?
  • If you have made a major mistake, do you stuff yourself with sweet things?
  • If you’ve experienced a loss, like the end of a relationship, do you search the fridge for “comfort food”?

Eating in response to emotional stressors is called, not surprisingly, stress eating.  

If you reach for food at moments of difficulty, you are not alone. You are also not some kind of out-of-control glutton.

Instead, you are responding to a biological cue.  Your body is telling you it is running out of stress chemicals, and needs to be replenished.

Let me explain.

Why Does Stress Make You Overeat?2018-11-07T18:14:16+00:00

Self-Compassion: Honouring Your Will to Survive

By Elina Falck on September 20th, 2017 in Trauma.

When something goes wrong, do you tend to blame yourself? Are you generous about the quirks and mishaps of your friends, but much harder on yourself? 

Do you take care of the needs of others while you drive yourself to the ground?

People who struggle with self-compassion tend to answer yes to these kinds of questions.

If you have experienced trauma, and especially if you were maltreated as a child, odds are high that you are very self-critical. Even if you intellectually know you were not to blame for the trauma, your emotional self tends to believe otherwise. 

It can feel very frustrating to continually bump up against this seemingly self-destructive tendency.

Self-Compassion: Honouring Your Will to Survive2018-11-07T18:13:58+00:00

How Do I Know If I’m A “Good Enough” Parent?

By Elina Falck on August 8th, 2017 in Parenting after Trauma

You have probably been told that the goal is not to be a perfect parent but rather that you need to make sure you are “good enough.”But, what does “good enough” mean? How do you know if your parenting measures up?

This is especially confusing if you are an adult survivor of abuse. You grew up in an environment that was unsafe and unkind, and as a result it can be hard to know what is healthy.

There are many building blocks to being a good enough parent. The first building blocks—those that ensure the physical survival of your child—are adequate food, shelter, and clothing. If you were physically neglected as a child but have managed to provide better for your own children, you are a good enough parent in this area.

How Do I Know If I’m A “Good Enough” Parent?2019-03-01T20:32:18+00:00
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