Parenting After Trauma

Maybe you’ve yelled at your children when you should have been calm.

Perhaps you brushed them aside when you should have paid attention to them. 

You might have been so busy, or so caught up in your own stuff, that you missed important parts of your child’s life.

Don’t worry; all of us make mistakes as parents.

This does not need to harm your relationship with your kids. In fact, your relationship with your children is becomes better when you repair your mistakes well.
 

By Elina Falck on August 8th, 2017 in Parenting after Trauma. 

You have probably been told that the goal is not to be a perfect parent but rather that you need to make sure you are “good enough.”But, what does “good enough” mean? How do you know if your parenting measures up?

This is especially confusing if you are an adult survivor of abuse. You grew up in an environment that was unsafe and unkind, and as a result it can be hard to know what is healthy.

There are many building blocks to being a good enough parent. The first building blocks—those that ensure the physical survival of your child—are adequate food, shelter, and clothing. If you were physically neglected as a child but have managed to provide better for your own children, you are a good enough parent in this area.